“Oh, I CANNOT WAIT to ask a girl, make reservations for dinner, find a group to go with, buy a corsage, plan the rides, dress up in a suit, and dance…” SAID NO FOURTEEN-YEAR-OLD BOY…EVER.

Ahhh, it’s that time.  Homecoming is upon us; the rustle of whisperings has filled the minds of many a freshman parent and child.

I am new to this annual tradition.  Although, I have solicited advice from those who have blazed this trail before, I am still a novice.  I am told that this specific dance occasion is planned by the boys.  There is a dance later in the year in which the girls take the lead (insert exhale here).

So, yippee… Homecoming, Freshman year…  “boys plan it.”

Now, I was born and raised in the South.  I have also spent years in the North and the Midwest.  But, this Southern girl was brought up in the manner of chivalry.  Walk through the door when he opens it for you.  Sit in the chair when he scoots it out for you.  Wear his coat when he offers it to you in a chill.

As I live these years of raising boys in a world of confident, capable and amazing women, I often wonder: Do the girls of today want these things?  Are they considered offensive?  Is chivalry dead?  If so, will it come back around like mom jeans and The Lion King?…

Okay, back to homecoming… Asking a fourteen-year-old boy to make a plan is often tricky.  (Thank you to the individuals who have confidence in them to do so).  Asking a fourteen-year-old boy to plan a homecoming dance is just downright ambitious (or funny, depending on your sense of humor).

Insert the capable, confident and amazing fourteen-year-old girls here…  Voila, a plan is made.  Granted, it may change a MILLION times, but at least there IS a plan.  So, I sincerely ask:  Is there room for the boys to figure it out?  Will we, as women, as “fixers” always take charge?

If the bible intends to portray men and women as a complement to one another, then how does this translate to today?  I believe that the Lord created us equally, with differing emotions and innate ways of feeling.

I, for one, live in a house full of boys… I love them dearly, of course.  But, admittedly, I sometimes run out of patience to allow them to figure it out.  Is this the way of the world?  Are we, as women, crushing chivalry all on our own?  Or, is it still something that we enjoy receiving?

The chivalry that women once expected, now lies in a time of confusion.  Do boys of today want to be chivalrous?  Do they know how?  Or do they fear the offending the independent woman?

This Southern, Northern, Midwestern girl will never not walk through a door held open…she will never not sit in the chair that is pulled out for her… and she will never not take his coat, if offered.  And, she will always, always, say “thank you.”

Ephesians 5:21

“submit to one another out of reverence for Christ”

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